In my previous writings, I have shared pieces of my grief and the pain of learning to live without my sister. Now, four years later, I still find myself asking the same questions: Does it get better? Is there really a timeline for healing? People often say time heals all wounds, but I have learned […]
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The Grief No One Talks About
For the losses that don’t always come with a funeral, a card, or the words “I’m sorry.” There is grief that everyone recognizes. It arrives with a phone call, a ceremony, flowers, casseroles, and people who know exactly what to say—or at least know they should say something. Then there is the other kind of […]
When People Do Not Understand Your Grief………….
As I have been sharing, grief is one of those things you cannot fully explain until life forces you to live inside it. Before loss, you may think you know what grief looks like. You may think it is crying, missing someone, having a hard day here and there, and then somehow finding your way […]
When Grief Becomes an Excuse
A personal reflection on grace, accountability, and choosing to live again after loss There was a moment when I looked around and realized grief had touched more than my heart. It had touched my habits, my body, my patience, my home, my friendships, and even the way I answered people I loved. I could point […]
Turning Pain Into Words
My Pain Has a Voice: How Writing Helps Me Carry My Sister’s Love Forward” There are some kinds of pain that do not know where to go. They sit in the chest. They rise unexpectedly in the middle of an ordinary day. They show up in the quiet moments, in familiar songs, in family gatherings, […]
Applying Emotional Intelligence While Grieving: Learning to Listen to My Own Heart
A grief reflection from the perspective of the one who is still learning how to live with loss Recently, I have been practicing mindfulness and becoming more intentional about my emotional intelligence. Not because grief has become easier, but because I am learning that I need tools to sit with what hurts without being swallowed […]
When Grief Gets Stuck on Repeat: Rumination After Death, Change, and Other Losses
I have been writing about grief for a while now—not because I have mastered it, but because it keeps teaching me. This reflection is for the sister whose mind keeps circling the same questions, the same memories, the same ache—whether the loss was a death, a relationship, a dream, a season, a body, a home, […]
Grief Gave Me New Zeal for Living
How loss, love, and weight loss became part of my healing journey Grief is strange. As I have been sharing, it can sit heavy on your chest and still somehow push you to move. It can make you feel weak and still reveal a strength you did not know you had. It can break your […]
Grieving, Realignment, and the Weight We Carry
A tender reflection on loss, the body, and learning how to care for myself again It’s been a minute………………………………….. I travelled to Panama recently and had to get on the boat but could not on my own, it took about 4 men to help me get in the boat. My body was tired, I was […]
My Sister’s Love: Remembering Aanuoluwapo Omolara Omotoyosi Daphne Oye- 03/06
We were 3 of us, and now we are 2. There are people who pass through this world quietly, and then there are people like my sister, Aanu, who leave fingerprints on every heart they touch. Aanu was beautiful in ways that had nothing to do with appearance—though she was stunning—but in the way she […]