We were 3 of us, and now we are 2. There are people who pass through this world quietly, and then there are people like my sister, Aanu, who leave fingerprints on every heart they touch. Aanu was beautiful in ways that had nothing to do with appearance—though she was stunning—but in the way she […]
Tag: mental-health
Grief: Self-Pity and Self-Loathing
It is no news that grief has been a constant companion in my life, the loss of my sister; this was when everything seemed to shift beneath my feet. So far, I have written about how grief isn’t just about sadness or anger; now, I want to discuss the unexpected emotions that surface: self-pity and […]
When God Doesn’t Answer………………….
While chatting with two coworkers, our conversation shifted from one topic to another, and I shared my blog with them, discussing what it means to me and the reason I started writing about grief. They visited my site, read a few posts, and liked it. One of them asked if I had ever wondered why […]
Grief- Surviving and not Living
If you’ve been reading along with me, you know that at the end of every post, I always write that we are LIVING and GRIEVING. While scrolling through Instagram like everyone else, I saw a post about survival and not truly living. It made me think about myself and that statement, and I started to […]
The Grief No One Understands
I have been writing about losing my sister, and my last post talked about my daughter and how difficult it was for her to go into my sister’s house, and the time it took to convince her. Since then, I thought that now that we got the trip out of the way, it would be […]
Going Back to Move Forward
For the past two years and ten months, I have consciously avoided returning to Georgia, as it is where my sister resided. I left Georgia in October 2022, and since then, neither my daughter—whom my sister regarded as her own child—nor I have returned. While I am her biological mother, my sister played a significant […]
Finding Hope After Loss: Embracing Your Grief
In my previous post, I wrote about my mother’s experiences coping with grief following the passing of my sister. However, I did not mention that this was not her first experience losing a child; in fact, it was her second. Before my brother Benjamin was born, she had another son who transitioned when he was […]
The many faces of Grief
Grief manifests differently for everyone, and I’ve come to understand that it has many faces. I’ve experienced some of these emotions myself and have recognized them in others. Additionally, I’ve observed that some people have preconceived notions about how grief should look. Grief is deeply personal yet universally shared; it can isolate us while also […]
Spiraling……………
Recently, I realized I was regressing and everything I had written about dealing with grief was no longer working. I have been spiraling, almost out of control, and all the self-help books and readings were now not applicable, and I did not have a clue on how to slow myself down or even stop myself […]
Grief and Gratitude……………….
In the last 2 years I have struggled with being thankful for things like waking up in the morning, being in sound health, having a job, my kids, my family and everything else that mattered and matters. Through this experience I have realized grief and gratitude might seem like polar opposites, but they often coexist […]