I have been writing about losing my sister, and my last post talked about my daughter and how difficult it was for her to go into my sister’s house, and the time it took to convince her. Since then, I thought that now that we got the trip out of the way, it would be […]
Going Back to Move Forward
For the past two years and ten months, I have consciously avoided returning to Georgia, as it is where my sister resided. I left Georgia in October 2022, and since then, neither my daughter—whom my sister regarded as her own child—nor I have returned. While I am her biological mother, my sister played a significant […]
Finding Hope After Loss: Embracing Your Grief
In my previous post, I wrote about my mother’s experiences coping with grief following the passing of my sister. However, I did not mention that this was not her first experience losing a child; in fact, it was her second. Before my brother Benjamin was born, she had another son who transitioned when he was […]
The Journey of My Mum: A Grieving Mother
Grief is a shadow that cloaks the heart, a weight that burdens the soul. I have written about my loss and how I have been dealing with it, but recently I looked at my mum talking about the loss of her nephew’s wife. I saw pain in her eyes, not that I hadn’t seen the […]
The many faces of Grief
Grief manifests differently for everyone, and I’ve come to understand that it has many faces. I’ve experienced some of these emotions myself and have recognized them in others. Additionally, I’ve observed that some people have preconceived notions about how grief should look. Grief is deeply personal yet universally shared; it can isolate us while also […]
Spiraling……………
Recently, I realized I was regressing and everything I had written about dealing with grief was no longer working. I have been spiraling, almost out of control, and all the self-help books and readings were now not applicable, and I did not have a clue on how to slow myself down or even stop myself […]
Grief and Gratitude……………….
In the last 2 years I have struggled with being thankful for things like waking up in the morning, being in sound health, having a job, my kids, my family and everything else that mattered and matters. Through this experience I have realized grief and gratitude might seem like polar opposites, but they often coexist […]
Thus far……………
I am struggling with the loss of my sister; September was especially hard because that was the month I lost her. I still feel some type of way when I hear people talk about their sisters and their relationships with them, but like I told my mum, “This is the card I have been dealt.” […]
Mic check……….1……….2……….
I have not written in a while, not because I don’t have or know what to write but because I have not been motivated. July to September are the most challenging part of the year because, on the 4th of July weekend, I saw my sister face to face in North Carolina; August was when […]
Staying away from the place of WHY………….
I recently wrote a blog post about getting out of the place of Why, because that was the resolution I came to. As I stated in that post, asking why does not help the reason we are grieving; instead, it deepens our self-pity, and blah blah blah……….. go read the previous post. Anyway, I made […]